When I was five years old, my father had “a nervous breakdown” and was sent to the state mental hospital. Later, I learned that his breakdown was caused by the depression he felt when he couldn’t make a living supporting his family doing the work he loved. In his journal he detailed the feelings of
I’m an angry male. O.K., I’ve said it. There is a lot to be angry about. Gun violence continues. Too many of our children live in poverty. Our environment is deteriorating. We are heating the planet beyond its capacity to support human life. Our country is divided. The political system is broken. Families are falling
There is a saying that we teach what we want to learn. I suspect it may be equally true that we write about issues most important in our lives. I grew up as an only child in a single parent-family. My father was gone by the time I was five years old. My mother had
I wrote my first book, Inside Out: Becoming My Own Man in 1983. After reading it, Sam Julty, one of the leaders in the emerging men’s movement said, “You’ve become the men’s maven.” I liked the sound of it, but really didn’t know what it meant until I looked it up. “A maven is a
Anger has been a problem my whole life. It contributed to ending of my two marriages and nearly brought about the demise of my third. When my anger was pointed out to me, usually by my wife, I immediately became defensive and insisted loudly, I’m not angry, God damn it! Inside I felt confused, out-of-control,
I’m a therapist specializing in helping men and the families who love them. I’ve been seeing people for more than 40 years, but it has only been in recent years that I’ve come to recognize the importance of the absent father wound on the lives of men and women. When I was five years old,
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