Most of us remember what it was like to fall in love. We are energized, fully alive, passionate, and ecstatic. We wake up thinking about our loved one and fall asleep with a smile on our face, if we can fall asleep at all. We are consumed with love and want it to last forever. But, for most of us it doesn’t. The honey-moon phase of our relationship comes to an end. We fall into our normal routines of work, family, and the stresses of living. Even after the ecstasy and joy of those early years wears off, many of us find contentment and happiness in a long-term, committed, relationship. Others lose that loving feeling and move on. But we never lose the desire to be head-over heels in love.
If you thought that a passionate, knock-your-socks-off, marriage was only for the young or only for the first few years of marriage, think again. My wife, Carlin, and I have been married 33 years and we’re as passionately in love now as we were in those early days, months, and years of our marriage. We’ve both been married twice before and have worked hard to learn the lessons of what didn’t work in the past and what we could do differently this time around. We have told friends that “the third time is the charm.” But I never fully understood how we’ve managed to keep love alive and well after being together for more than 30 years until [Read more...]