The 6 Numbers That Will Change Your Life

We all have numbers that are important to us. Our anniversary date, the number of friends and family we will invite to our daughter’s wedding, maybe even the number of calories per day we’re going to try and maintain through our next (and this time it’s going to work) diet. But there are six numbers that I believe will be even more important for you to know if you’re going to survive long enough to enjoy a golden anniversary, your daughter’s wedding, or the new bathing suit you plan to wear at the beach once you take off those extra pounds. Are you ready?

            Number, #1: The number of people in the world today.

            Number, #2: The median age of the population.

            Number, #3: The number of people living in towns and cities.

            Number, #4: The number of people getting their energy from renewable resources.

            Number, #5: The number of people who will lose their jobs.

            Number, #6: The number of people who are depressed and losing hope.

Let’s take a look at these numbers and what they mean in our lives.

#1: According to a report by the BBC Future, based on United Nations and CIA figures, the present world population (2017) is 7.5 billion. Difficult to get our head around a number that big. But we feel it in our lives every day when we compare the past to the present.

I remember being ten-years-old and enjoying the orchard groves that went on forever which I could see from my window at our home in the Los Angeles suburb of Sherman Oaks in the San Fernando Valley. The air was clean and it felt like there was plenty of space. According to the World Population Survey there were 2.6 billion people in 1953 (if you want to see the population at various times in your life, check it out here.

So, we’ve added 4.9 billion more people to this finite planet we call Earth since I roamed free as a ten-year-old. And like me, they all want to eat, have a job, and most would like to get around in a multi-horse-powered automobile rather than ride a donkey. There’s only so much space, so many resources, so much soil, water, and clean air and we don’t seem to be doing a very good job taking care of what we have.

You don’t have to look too far in the past to notice the change. In the last year, we added 80 million more people. That’s like adding all the people presently living in Germany. Do you feel the pressure? I feel my stress levels going up, just writing about it.

Plus, people have a tendency to move away from home when their local living conditions don’t allow them to support their families. More than 65.3 million people are currently refugees or are displaced in their own countries according to the United Nations – the highest figure since records began before the Second World War. If these people all lived in a country it would be 21st biggest country in the world with a population larger than the UK. [Read more…]

Why Bernie Sanders May Be the Youngest Presidential Candidate And the Most Qualified

544928_b2edaa294b_oAs the Presidential primaries begin and the candidates try and convince us that their opponents are not qualified, it might be good to consider what neuroscience might teach us about the aging brain.

According to a recent headline in the magazine Politico, “Clinton surrogate to demand Sanders release medical records.” The article goes on to say, “A top surrogate for Hillary Clinton, David Brock founder of the Clinton-aligned Correct the Record PAC, is prepping a new attack in an intensifying and increasingly personal war against rival Bernie Sanders — calling on the 74-year-old to release his medical records before the Iowa caucuses on Feb. 1.”

It’s true Bernie is 74 year’s old, while Donald Trump is 69 and Hillary Clinton is a mere 68. We certainly want the candidate who may be our next President to be able to function at a high level. But mental function may have more to do with the stresses and traumas we experience in life than the number of years we have lived. The youngest brain may be housed in the cranium of the oldest candidate. [Read more…]

Could You Use $5,000 Between Now and March 31, 2015?

Diamond HomeLet’s face it, we live in difficult times. The world is changing, our economic system continues to be unstable, uncertainty abounds, and stress is increasing in our lives. We long for a respite, but often don’t know what to do. We want peace and quiet and a break from the stresses of life.

I was born in New York City, grew up in Los Angeles, and we raised our children in the San Francisco bay area. After the children were grown my wife, Carlin, and I wanted to live in the country. We came to Willits, a small town, in the big trees of Mendocino County. We built our dream home in the country and have lived joyfully here for 24 years.

We’ve been very blessed to be able to live in wonderful places over the years. City life was wonderful, country life has been wonderful. We’re now looking forward to moving into our town of Willits.

Here’s where you come in. We know there is a family out there who has been thinking of a dream house in the country and this may be it. Maybe they are freezing in the east and want to live in sunny California. Maybe they live in a big city and want to move to the country. Maybe they are close by and want real peace and quiet.

We have a beautiful home on 22 acres of land, with abundant water, wonderful gardens, a number of outbuildings, close to town, yet very private. You can learn more about the property and see pictures here.

We’re offering a $5,000 reward to anyone who finds a buyer between now and March 31, 2015. We’re motivated to sell. The price is right. You may know just the right person. [Read more…]

How to Make More Money, Work Less, Stress Less, and Live in the Country

Less Stess picCarlin and I moved to Willits in 1992 because I thought I was going to die. I had recently had surgery for life-threatening adrenal tumor. My doctors told me that I was fine now. The tumor had been removed and I had fully recovered from surgery. When I asked them why I had gotten the tumor in the first place, they just shrugged and said, “It just happened. Maybe something you were born with that finally caught up with you.” They never asked me about being increasingly stressed and depressed living the fast-paced life in Marin County.

Like many of my friends and colleagues I was busting my butt trying to make a living. It seemed the harder I worked and the faster I ran, the farther behind I got. The fact that we were living in a beautiful house and could go into San Francisco whenever we wanted a night in the big city blinded me to the fact that I was one of many living a rat-race of life.

I had just taken my car in for service and was jogging home (needed to get my exercise in whenever I could). All of a sudden my head felt like it was about to explode. The pain was so severe, it literally knocked me off my feet. It took the doctors a month to finally figure out what I had. “This falls under the category of rare diseases you learn about in medical school, but usually never see in your lifetime,” my doctor told me. “It’s called a pheochromocytoma, basically an adrenal tumor. What you felt when you thought your head was exploding was the sudden increase in blood pressure due to the upsurge of adrenaline.”

Even after the surgery I wasn’t satisfied with my doctor’s explanation that “it’s just one of those things. We don’t know why you got it, there was nothing you could have done to prevent it, and you should just be grateful that you are fine now.” Instead I consulted my own doctor, the one that lives inside my psyche, the one who often has deeper information that the specialists who are licensed to practice medicine. [Read more…]

The Underlying Cause of Gridlock Is Complexity: Learn How You Can Break Free

ComplexityIt seems that “gridlock” has become the norm in the world these days. We are increasingly stuck in traffic, our government doesn’t seem to be able to make the most basic decisions, and most of our institutions, from the schools to our health-care system, are becoming increasingly dysfunctional. We put out one fire here, and another one starts over there. We stop the “bad guys” in one part of the world, only to see even worse “bad guys” pop up somewhere else. More and more of us feel that things are going downhill and we are headed for collapse.

More than anyone else I know, socio-biologist Rebecca Costa offers a clear understanding of what is causing our traumatic slide towards collapse and what we need to do to prevent it. She says, “It doesn’t matter if you believe our greatest threat is pandemic virus, climate change, terrorism, or nuclear proliferation. We can all agree that, eventually, one of these problems is going to have catastrophic consequences.”

But when we examine earlier civilizations that collapsed, such as the Mayans, Romans, Khmer, Byzantine and Ming societies, a clear pattern emerges. The first symptom of impending collapse was that they all experienced gridlock when the magnitude of the problems they needed to solve exceeded their abilities. In other words, they hit some cognitive threshold where they could no longer understand or manage their biggest, most dangerous problems. They then began passing these problems from one generation to the next as the size and strength of the threats grew.

Costa found that environmental problems were the underlying cause of collapse. There may have been wars and fighting by young men with high testosterone levels, followed by physical and emotional losses and depression, but ultimately collapse came because the civilization failed to take care of their natural resources or their increasing population outstripped the resources available to them. [Read more…]

5 Ways to Survive and Prosper During the Coming World-Wide Turbulence

turbulenceEbola outbreaks in Africa, conflicts in Russia and the Ukraine, fighting in Gaza and Israel, civil unrest in the U.S., food and gasoline price increases, government gridlock, and water shortages: The headlines make our heads spin and cause our hearts to race. It feels like things are falling apart and we are on a life raft in a sea of change. It reminds me of a remarkable 1982 film, Koyaanisqatsi: Life Out of Balance. It was a film of powerful images that showed the dysfunctional state of our world, but with no dialogue.

Godfrey Reggio, the film’s director, explained the lack of dialogue by stating “it’s not for lack of love of the language that the film has no words. It’s because, from my point of view, our language is in a state of vast humiliation. It no longer describes the world in which we live.” In the Hopi language, the word Koyaanisqatsi means “unbalanced life.” The impact of this unbalance on individuals is increasing stress, depression, addiction and anger.

But like all crises, there are also opportunities for positive transformation. Here are some things I think are helpful to consider:

  1. Recognize the Opportunity Within the Crisis

If a raging tiger broke into our yard, we’d immediately recognize the danger and run for our lives or fight to survive. But economic, environmental, and energy changes occur slowly enough that our brain doesn’t register them. We have to use our creative imaginations to see the danger we are in.

In his book and video series, The Crash Course, economic researcher and futurist Chris Martenson describes the three major forces that are impacting our future: Economy, Energy, and Environment, how these big three Es interact, and how they determine our prosperity or decline. [Read more…]

Men and Stress: Saving Your Sanity and the Only Brain You’ll Ever Have

Although we have known for some time that stress can cause damage to the heart, the gastrointestinal tract, and other parts of the body, we have recently learned that stress can actually damage the brain.  J. Douglas Bremner, M.D., is Director of Mental Health Research at the Atlanta Veterans Administration Medical Center, and is editor of Trauma, Memory, and Dissociation and Stress Disorder.  In Bremner’s book Does Stress Damage the Brain? he explains, “Research in only the past decade or so has shown that extreme stress has effects on the brain that last throughout the lifespan.”

As a result many of those emotional distresses that we have, in the past, viewed as purely psychological, may be the result of physical damage to the brain.  “A group of psychiatric disorders related to stress, what I call trauma-spectrum disorders,” says Bremner, “could share in common a basis in brain abnormalities that are caused by stress.”

Bremner continues saying that “Trauma-spectrum disorders are those that are known to be linked to stress, including post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), dissociative disorders, borderline personality disorders, adjustment disorder, depression, and anxiety.”  I would include the Irritable Male Syndrome as another one of these trauma-spectrum disorders.

Trauma-spectrum Disorders and Gender:  Why Women Cry and Men Run Away 

One of Dr. Bremner’s experiments helps us understand the difference between the way men and women experience these disorders.  He gathered a group of former depression patients.  With their permission, he gave them a beverage that was spiked with an amino acid that blocks the brain’s ability to absorb serotonin, the neurotransmitter that allows us to feel upbeat and happy.

Using the new brain scan techniques he took pictures of the subject’s brains to see if he could pinpoint the areas that were associated with depression. If we knew the areas of the brain associated with depression, he reasoned then we could come up with better medications and treatment approaches.  In looking at the color brain scans he was able to show that a loss of serotonin affects all three major areas of the brain.

What I found even more fascinating were the gender specific differences in the way men and women reacted to the potion that blocked the effects of the serotonin.  Typical of the males was John, a middle-aged businessman who had fully recovered from a bout of depression, thanks to a combination of psychotherapy and Prozac. Within minutes of drinking the brew, however, “He wanted to escape to a bar across the street,” recalls Bremner. “He didn’t express sadness … he didn’t really express anything. He just wanted to go to Larry’s Lounge.”  Contrast John’s response with that of female subjects like Sue, a mother of two in her mid-thirties. After taking the cocktail, “She began to cry and express her sadness over the loss of her father two years ago,” recalls Bremmer. “She was overwhelmed by her emotions.”

So we see a very real contrast in the ways men and women respond to a loss of the brain chemicals that keep our emotions in a healthy balance.  Men tend to withdraw and go for the alcohol to prevent us from feeling our pain.  Women tend to share their emotions with others.  I have found that chronic irritability is one of the principal ways men withdraw, rather than dealing directly with our feelings.

 Men and Stress:  What’s a Man to Do?

Men and stress can be a killer combination.  We can make decisions that help eliminate or decrease the stress response in life by once again paying attention to the physical, emotional, and chemical components of our health. Physical stressors include accidents, physical inactivity, and changes in temperature. Chemical stressors include sugar, high fat foods, cigarettes, alcohol, and toxic work or environment. Emotional stressors include fear, anger, guilt, depression, anxiety, and loneliness.

When we get out of balance with our lives, many of us overload on all aspects of our stress capacity, stopping our regular exercise regimen, eating poorly, and navigating family get-togethers or loneliness. Come up with a plan for how you can circumvent illness by planning ahead.

Make sure you are able to identify when your stress levels are high, and have some ways of interrupting the process. An increased heart rate, sweat, tense muscles, irritability, moodiness and dilated pupils are clear signs of fight or flight and an increased stress response.

When you notice these signs stop what you’re doing and check in with yourself for at least five minutes. Check in and see if HALT is a problem.  These letters stand for hungry, angry, lonely, tired.  These are some of the more common ways that stress manifests.  Ways to re-set the system are going for a brisk walk, taking a few deep breaths, visualizing yourself somewhere refreshing, relaxing tight muscles, and shifting your perception to a different space. This does not have to be a long task. Just check in and re-set every hour until you get the hang of it and feel some shift in your overall tension pattern.

You can practice using the energy healing tools I describe in my book, MenAlive:  Stop Killer Stress with Simple Energy Healing ToolsLearn about Earthing, Heart Coherence, Attachment Love, and Emotional Freedom Techniques (Also known as EFT or Tapping).  These simple tools combat stress in men and the women who love them.  You can get your brain back in balance and allow you to more effectively deal with the ups and downs of life without becoming overwhelmed or stressed out.

Please share your story or experience.

Together we heal.

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Why I’d Rather Partner with You on My Book Than With a Big Publisher

I’m pleased to announce that my 10th book, MenAlive:  Stop Killer Stress with Simple Energy Healing Tools will be available on Sunday July 1st!  My previous books have been done with major publishers.  The advantage of publishing with a big company is that they offer an “advance” on royalties to help cover the costs of cutting back on my counseling practice for the two years it takes to write a book and get it out in the world.  They also pay all the costs to create the book, i.e. editing, formatting, cover design, and printing.  Plus, they promote the book and get it in the book stores.  They also take the risk of putting out a book that only a few people will want, thus losing the money they invest.

For doing all of that, they take most of the money on the sales generated.  On a $20 book, I may get $1.50 to $2.00 for each book sold if I publish with a big publisher.

But times are changing.  Publishers are doing less and less for writers and we are doing more and more for ourselves, but the publishers still take a lot of the profits.

So, I decided to reach out to you and ask my tribe to help support my book.  Many of you gave me some of the initial money I needed to do a good edit and I put up the rest of the money to have a nice cover designed, have the book formatted, printed, and shipped.

With your help, we did it!  Starting Sunday, people can get the book and you have some options of where to order.  Each option means a different amount that comes to me, hopefully to help pay back some of what it cost to create the book.  I don’t write in order to get rich or even make much money.  I write because I have a passion to help people.

MenAlive is the culmination of my work up to now and I’m convinced it can help save millions of lives. In fact, I’ve made a commitment to do what I can to get the book into the hands of a million men.  I know if they use the tools in the book they will reduce stress and ultimately live longer and more healthy lives.  And I’m hoping you’ll want to help me do it.

So, I’m more concerned about getting the book in your hands than how much money I make on it.  But I wanted to let you know the financial aspects of publishing.

If you buy the book in your local bookstore (and I support our independent local bookstores), I’ll make $4.00 on each book you buy.

If you buy the book on Amazon, I’ll make $6.00.

If you buy the book directly from me, I’ll make $12.00.  Plus, I’ll send you a personally autographed copy.  With the money I make I’ll be able to stay afloat and reach out to more people.

As a special treat if you are on my email list, I will send out a special link on Sunday where I’m giving out 250 free copies of the book. All I ask in return is that you help share the word of the launch via your social media.

So make a choice that works for you, but help me get this book out to the people who need it.  Once you’ve read it, please give me a “star” rating on Amazon.  I hope to get 100 “5 star” ratings.  Also if you choose, leave a comment about the value MenAlive has made in your life.  That allows people who don’t know my work to feel more inclined to take the risk to read the book.

A big publisher might publish 300 or 400 books a year.  They are not as committed as we are to getting MenAlive in the hands of a million men.  Thank you for helping me to help men and the women who love them.  Together we can save lives and bring about a better world.

It’s Good to Be Nice to Those Who Attack Us

Although my work is focused around men and stress, I also work with many women who are trying to get a better understanding of their man.  I get all kinds of letters and emails, most appreciate the work I do.  But this one was pretty hostile.  I considered writing back and telling her I wasn’t to blame for her husband leaving or just ignoring the letter.  Instead we had the following interchange.

She:  A friend suggested I get your book to help with my husband.  Yes; it is my husband who left me last Sunday. After 25 years of marriage.  What a waste your book was.  It is obviously written by a manipulative male stand point!!!!!! Thanks a lot! I can’t believe I bought this!

Me:  Thanks for writing to me. Of course you’re angry. The kind of abuse that men cause to others can be devastating. It takes a lot of courage on your part to want to understand what is going on.

She:  I am so sorry for my outburst…I went from the pathetic victim to the aggressor in a split of a second…split might be the perfect word. I really want to apologize. Your book is actually wonderful and very helpful (now that I read it all and calmed down).

Me:  As I said, I know how difficult this can be. But you’ll also find the growth that will occur in your life will open to new possibilities.  Good luck with your future work and I hope your husband can rise to the challenge.

She:  Thank you so much for talking to me… I don’t mean to take up your time or get free counseling!  Sorry about my …I really don’t know what to call …my open neediness?  Thank you again.

Me:  Good luck with your journey. If you ever want to do counseling, I offer it by phone and counsel people from all over the world.

She:  What would be the number to call? And what are your rates? How does it work? Thank you!

Being supportive when someone is angry and blaming doesn’t always turn into new business.  Sometimes it just eases a bit of the burden and pain we all carry.  What’s been your experience responding supportively when someone is hostile and blaming?  How has it reduced your stress level?

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Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness: 7 Not So Simple Steps

As we reflect on those who have died in support of the American way of life, I think about what it takes to be truly happy.  Too often we live in fear or anger and it contributes to heart problems, relationship breakups, and conflict with other nations.

We all want to be happy and are looking for simple steps to getting there, yet scientific evidence makes it seem unlikely that you can change your level of happiness in any sustainable way.  Sad people don’t become lastingly happy and happy people don’t become lastingly sad.  But new research shows us all how to find lasting happiness.

In his book, Authentic Happiness:  Using the New Positive Psychology to Realize Your Potential for Lasting Fulfillment, Martin Seligman, the father of happiness research tells us, “The pursuit of happiness is enshrined in the Declaration of Independence as a right of all Americans, as well as on the self-improvement shelves of every American bookstore.”

But achieving lasting happiness isn’t easy.  Scientific evidence suggests that we each have a fixed range for happiness just as we do for weight. “New research into happiness,” says Seligman, “demonstrates that it can be lastingly increased.  And a new movement, Positive Psychology, shows how you can come to live in the upper reaches of your set range of happiness.”

How a Born Pessimist Learned to Be Happy

Martin Seligman is a world renowned author and psychologist who describes himself as a born pessimist.  In 1965 he stumbled on to field of study that would change his life and the life of all of us who suffer from things like irritability and depression.  In doing experiments with dogs he found something completely unexpected.  He gave dogs a mild shock paired with a tone (rather than pairing a tone with food as had been done in classical conditioning).

He expected that once the dog was conditioned, whenever the dog heard the tone he would associate it with the shock, feel fear, and run away.  Instead he found that the conditioned dogs just pathetically laid back and took the shocks.  Apparently, what the conditioned dog learned was that trying to escape from the shocks is futile. This dog learned to be helpless.

A new field of study was born, one perfectly fitted to a born pessimist.  The theory of learned helplessness was then extended to human behavior, providing a model for explaining depression, a state characterized by a lack of affect and feeling. Depressed people became that way, Seligman felt, because they learned to be helpless. Depressed people learned that whatever they did, it was futile. During the course of their lives, depressed people apparently learned that they have no control.

On a summer’s day in 1998 Seligman had another critical insight and his personal and professional life shifted once again.  “It took place in my garden while I was weeding with my five-year old daughter,” Seligman remembers.  “I am goal-oriented and time-urgent and when I’m weeding in the garden, I’m actually trying to get the weeding done. Nikki, however, was throwing weeds into the air and dancing around. I yelled at her. She walked away, came back, and said, ‘Daddy, I want to talk to you.’

‘Yes, Nikki?’

‘Daddy, do you remember before my fifth birthday? From the time I was three to the time I was five, I was a whiner. I whined every day. When I turned five, I decided not to whine anymore. That was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. And if I can stop whining, you can stop being such a grouch.’

“This was an epiphany for me. As for my own life, Nikki hit the nail right on the head. I was a grouch. I had spent fifty years mostly enduring wet weather in my soul, and the last ten years being a nimbus cloud in a household of sunshine. Any good fortune I had was probably not due to my grouchiness, but in spite of it. In that moment, I resolved to change.”

7 Steps for Becoming Happy

1.    Learn the Happiness Formula

Here is the happiness formula developed by Dr. Seligman:  H=S + C + V.

H is your enduring level of happiness.

S is your set range.

C is the circumstances of your life

V represents the factors under your voluntary control.

There are many things that will increase our momentary happiness:  Chocolate, a good movie, flowers, new clothes, sex.  But to achieve enduring happiness takes more work.

2.    Take the Happiness Test

The following scale was devised by Dr. Sonja Lyubominsky, one of the world’s leading happiness researchers.

For each of the following statements and/or questions, please circle the point on the scale that you feel is most appropriate in describing you.

A.    In general I consider myself:

1                  2                       3                     4               5                   6             7
Not a very                                                                                                      A very
Happy person                                                                                    Happy person

B.    Compared to most of my peers, I consider myself:

1                 2                       3                     4               5                    6              7
Less happy                                                                                            More happy

C.    Some people are generally happy no matter what is going on.  To what extent is this true for you?

1                2                       3                      4                5                  6               7
Not at all                                                                                               A great deal

D.  Some people are generally not very happy, never as happy as they might be.    To what extent is this true for you?

1                2                       3                      4                5                  6               7
Not at all                                                                                               A great deal

To score the test, total your answers for the questions and divide by 4.  The mean for adult Americans is 4.8.  Two-thirds of people score between 3.8 and 5.8.

3.    Imagine Your Parents Taking the Test.  How would they score?

Research shows that half of your score on the happiness test is accounted for by the score your biological parents would have gotten had they taken the test.  This may mean that we inherit a “steersman” who urges us toward a specific level of happiness or sadness.  This is our set range.

4.    Change the Circumstances in Your Life That Really Matter.

“The good news about circumstances,” says Seligman, “is that some do change happiness for the better.  The bad news is that changing these circumstances is usually impractical and expensive.”  Here are some of the circumstances that people believe will increase happiness:

  • Having more money.
  • Getting married.
  • Being healthy.
  • Good social life.
  • Avoiding negative events and emotions.
  • Getting a good education.
  • Live in a sunnier climate.
  • Engaging in religious practice.

Surprisingly money, health, education and living in a sunny climate had no effect on happiness.

Getting married and having a rich social network had a strong effect on happiness.  Avoiding negative events and emotions and engaging religious practice had a moderate effect.

5.    Don’t Dwell on the Negative.

Many people believe that in order to be happy they have to focus on all the negative things in their lives, find out what is causing them, and fix what is wrong.  In fact, research shows that the more we focus on what we don’t like in our lives, the more unhappy we will become.

Depressed men and women tend to ruminate and chew on all the things that are going wrong in their lives.  They believe that a bad events that happen to them are permanent and will persist.  Those people who are generally happy have a different view of the world.

6.    Focus on Gratitude and Forgiveness.

Those who would be happy ruminate on happiness.  They assume if something bad happens, it is temporary and will soon pass.  They focus their attention on feeling gratitude for what they have and look forward to more good things happening in the future.

I tell my clients that life has two windows. Look out one window and you will see all the negative things going on in the world:  Anger, violence, wars, poverty, death, suffering.  Look out the other window and you will see a different world:  Love, compassion, care, support, emotional richness, hope.  Both exist, both are real.

Happiness depends on which window you spend most of your time looking through.  When we look out one window we feel gratitude for all that we have.  When we look out the other window, we see all that we do not want.  Which window are you looking through?

Many of us carry old wounds from times we were hurt.  We also carry a lot of anger and blame within us.  We hold on to grudges for years.  Forgiveness is one of the most difficult, yet healing things we can do.  At some point in our lives we have to accept that the wounds inflicted on us were done by people who themselves were wounded.  At that point, we don’t forget, but we do forgive.

7.    Reach out today and let someone know that you care.

In our busy lives we often forget that a little recognition and appreciation can go a long way in making someone’s life a little more cheerful.  We can all use a little more love today as we reflect on those we have lost.  Make this a day that we show we care.

I value your comments.  What do you think about these 7 steps?  What are some things you do to be happier?

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